Hey there. You are here reading because a little tiny piece of you may be thinking about your own self-worth. I mean how can you not? Look at the culture that surrounds us.
We live, breathe and eat for more. We are constant consumers of everything that comes to mind.
Our culture tells us especially as mothers “The More You Do the More You Are.”
That’s not true.
But why oh why do we fall for it every day?
How many times have you read you need a side hustle to make money online?
Have you seen Zootopia? “It’s called a Hustle baby.” 🙂
Yet it’s not quite so funny when we are constantly hustling for our own self-worth- is it?
These words I’m typing right now are just as difficult for me to read and hear.
I’m a hustler baby. It’s true.
But I do NOT want to hustle for my own worth.
Why? I don’t need to. You don’t either.
Check out this story and see how you relate
There she was, a fresh new look hair cut shorter then she has ever had, a tinge of blonde streaks spread throughout her dark brown hair. She was beautiful, but she didn’t need a new haircut to define that, everyone already knew.
Her new look brings about a vulnerability she’s not quite sure she is comfortable with. She runs her fingers through her hair and feels a strange sense of self-worth. As she slowly starts walking, she sees heads turn and smile. She starts hearing the words slowly coming from those she is acquaintances with, “Love the new haircut.”
Her breathing steadies as she starts to feel worthy of each calculated step towards her husband. She’s scared and excited and wondering will he find her worthy of beauty?
The thoughts swirl inside her head. “He won’t like it and if he doesn’t like it- what good am I?” Children, lack of exercise, and the constant articles showing up in her Facebook feed about the heartbreaking addiction of porn fills her mind.
She runs her fingers through her hair one more time before she sees him. This time it didn’t feel so good.
She hears her thoughts so loudly it hurts.
As they meet face to face for the first time they stop, eyes locked.
She waits inside a peak of hope- shimmering on the thought of- surely I’m not worthy to him based on my looks.
“You look hot.”
The words all women want to hear in today’s society. Words you want to hear the most from your husband.
She straightens her shoulders out stands taller and starts to believe. “I’m good enough”- she whispers. “I’m worthy of his love.”
She goes through the next day confident while her husband smiles at her for beauty.
It fades that beauty.
Two days later she splashes about outside with her kids. After a week of praying wondering why she is a mother because exhaustion has covered her face more than she cares to admit, she finds herself genuinely smiling. She feels it in her soul- contentment.
She and the children run out in the rain splash, scream, play.
She comes in after feeding the children dinner and sits down in her office to catch up on some work. The kids color quietly next to her.
Then she hears her husband come home after a 12-hour workday.
They chatter about their day and she shares an experience with him for work.
“Did your hair look like that?” he says defined.
Her face puzzles and she answers, ” Yes. and pauses and continues, ” I thought you said I looked hot.”
“Yeah, the day you got it done. Not like that. It’s all frizzy and…”
What she hears instantly is the enemy toying with her emotions and quickly pouring sand on the truth.
“I’m not worthy. I’m not good enough.”
The enemy throws sand. You can quickly grab all the sand/lies and cover up the truth but it will quickly wash away when you remember the battle has already been won. He can’t have a stronghold over you.
Remember you need to verify your emotions with truth.
Here are 5 Truths You Need To Tell Yourself Daily
Your worth doesn’t depend on how put together you appear to your friends and family.
Your worth isn’t defined by what you put on Facebook/Instagram and who likes it.
Your worth isn’t defined by your looks.
Your worth isn’t defined by the housework you finished or didn’t finish.
Your worth isn’t defined because you ALREADY ARE WORTHY.
What’s Filling Your Life too Full
Think of the one thing that is filling your life too full?
Got it? Good. Your worth isn’t defined by that.
You can’t do enough to be enough.
You already are enough. Get rid of the buffer in your life because it’s only there to hide pain caused by lies.
You are worthy. You are worthy because of the blood of Jesus.
“for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” I Cor. 6:20
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Eph. 2:10
You aren’t alone either. We all struggle because we all are not perfect. Yet if you can remember the truth that Jesus died on the cross for you, that you were created and you are worthy you will live a life full of joy.
A life that is based on truth rather than lies. You will slowly but surely walk towards your victory. You will have cheerleaders on the sideline, you will find love you never knew existed, you will be blessed endlessly and you will want to bless others.
You, my sweet friend, are worthy.
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Sunday 7th of May 2017
Tasia, Wow! This is so so SO good! You words are resonating with the very heart of my own ministry message! I love it! I have lived that worth game. Not embracing who I am in Christ and flitting about from moment to moment and comment to comment to determine my worth. I am so thankful God has done a healing work in me and today I live (mostly) in freedom! I must always keep it in check, though, because the enemy still knows how to attack in my weakest places!
Welcome to #MomentsofHope and thank you so much for sharing this beautiful HOPE! Blessings and smiles, Lori
Monday 8th of May 2017
Lori, Thank you so much for your kind words. I am so happy to hear the Lord is speaking to you. I hope to stay in touch!